Parenting WIth Cancer

© Z CANCER FOUNDATION. All rights reserved.

Approved by the Z Cancer Foundation | Editorial Board, 04/2017

Tips for caring for your children
Consider the following tips to create a safe, secure environment for your children while you care for your parent:
• Give your children age-appropriate explanations about your parent's illness. Let them know that nothing they did caused the cancer. And, ask if they have heard anything about cancer that they don’t understand and encourage them to ask questions. Learn more about how to talk with your children about cancer and how children understand cancer at various ages.

• Explain that it is normal for people with a family member who has cancer to be worried and sad sometimes. Encourage them to express their feelings in ways they find helpful. They choose to do this by talking with someone, writing a story, drawing a picture, or playing with toys.
• Maintain a regular schedule and routine as often as possible. Most children find comfort in structure. It also helps to make emergency back-up plans for childcare and tell your children about these plans in advance. For example, say, “Aunt Susan will stay with you at our house if I need to take care of Grandma.” Or, “Mrs. Jones will pick you up from school when I take Grandpa to the doctor.”
• Tell your children’s daycare or school and their friends’ parents about your parent's illness, providing updates when necessary. Consider sending a letter or an email so that adults who interact with your children will have consistent, accurate information. Many parents find it helpful to guide other adults in how to talk in a positive way with their children.
• Enlist the help of neighborhood or school-based parent groups. These groups can help with carpooling, childcare, and after school activities. Despite the challenges, parenting and being a caregiver helps model for your children how family members care for each other.

Tips for caring for your parent who has cancer
Talk with your parent about his or her needs and expectations upfront. Set up a time to re-evaluate how things are going at least once a month. If this is difficult for you, ask a health care professional, family member, or member of the clergy to guide the conversation. You may also want to consider taking the following steps:
• Request a home safety evaluation. A visiting nurse or occupational therapist can do these. The provider will recommend devices and services to enhance your parent's safety and ability to function on their own.
• Ask other for help caring for your parent while you are at work or caring for your children. Other family members or friends may be able to do this. If not, consider asking the health care team for referrals to resources in your community.
• Make caregiving back-up plans for your parent so that someone can relieve you on short notice.
• Use technology to stay in touch with your parent when you're not there in person.

Learn more about how to manage common caregiving tasks.
Tips for caring for yourself
Taking care of yourself physically and emotionally is essential to healthy caregiving. Try to use some of the suggestions below:
• Use resources available through your employer, such as the Family and Medical Leave Act and Employee Assistance Program.
• Take advantage of local caregiver support groups, as well as online communities for support.
• Make a balanced diet, regular sleep, and exercise a priority.
• Plan periodic activities with family or friends that do not involve discussions or tasks related to your parent’s cancer.
• Allow yourself some time, even in small intervals, to relax in the ways that work for you. This may involve hobbies, writing in a journal, or daily quiet time.
• Maintain your social support as much as possible.
• Create time for you and your spouse, partner, or friends to stay connected.

Be A Volunteer Today

Join the Thousands In Africa and Around The World Impacting Lives Through This Amazing Innitiative.

Be Part Of Our Campaigns And Health Innitiatives.

Volunteering To Be Part Of The Software Develepment Team is Highly welcome, With The Fast Software and Technological Trends in Medicine, Z Cancer Foundation is There To Keep digital Communication Between Oncologist & Patients Via Our Robust System.

Learn More

Doctor'S Approach

Teachings on how doctors shoud approach patients to tell them they have cancer

Palative Care

This is a special kind of care given to individuals during pain and help them through it..

Life after Chemo

How does life look like after chemotherapy? Most often patients face difficulties

Family And Cancer

Family has a great part to play in the lives of those who suffer from cancer related diseases.